@tillshadeisgone @mekkaokereke I understand that, but I don't understand how that's a reason why the solution wouldn't work.
Specifically, this was the same for non-queer-aligned servers in the fedi as well. While the fedi is generally more queer than maybe some other platforms, many mods used to be cis-het and the policies often didn't recognize queerphobia much. That's why "we" did our own servers. This has both provided us with a safe-space as well as pushed the entire fedi slightly more queer because it provided reason for influx of (white) queer people.
And I just don't understand why this approach does not work for the BIPoC community as well :(