@SuperDicq @ArdainianRight @mangeurdenuage @mrsaturday

I don't remember where I've read this, but I believe the "transphobia" claim is supposed to be about this part:

> Please think about how to treat other participants with respect, especially when you disagree with them. For instance, call them by the names they use, and refer to them using words whose meanings (as you understand them) cover those participants' stated gender identities. Please also show tolerance and respect for people who do that using different words from the words you use.

Supposedly, the third sentence means that so-called "misgendering" would be allowed. If that interpretation is correct, it's totally reasonable, because some people feel as strongly about using sex-based pronouns, or gender-neutral pronouns, as others feel about having specific gendered pronouns used for them. Forcing people to use language in line with the gender identity belief system is no different from forcing people to use language in line with any other belief system. At that point it stops being about kindness, and becomes authoritarianism instead.

If I go up to a transwoman and say "you're a man! you'll never be a woman!" or e.g. specifically make a point of empathizing the word *he* when talking about them within their hearing distance with an intent to annoy them, that would clearly be harassment. Just like it would be harassment if I go up to a Christian and say "your god is fake! Jesus was just some random guy!" or intentionally use blasphemy within their hearing distance despite knowing it deeply upsets them.

But if I talk about the fact that a transwoman is, as a matter of fact, a man who performs femininity and believes himself to be a woman on the basis of having some kind of female personality essence (neurological or spiritual or whatever), and I just naturally happen to refer to him as "he" in my speech because I don't share his belief that he's a woman, then that's not harassment or hatred. Not any more than it would be harassment or hatred to speak in a way that defies Christian principles, such as using blasphemous language, referring to multiple gods in my speech patterns (expressing polytheism), or stating my belief that religion is really just a form of superstition.