@aby I will seem like an asshole, but this comment is genuine. While this might wery well be true, providing anecdotal evidence to support the notion that every (or most) white cis men are like this, and then immediately saying "This is not a debate", or "White, cis men need not comment" sounds toxic to me.
As we are dealing with anecdotes, I tend to say yes to all of my friends, including female ones.
The argument might very well be sound, but it's being handled poorly.