@LavenderPawprints also, to touch on the "running your own instance" thing...honestly, I don't think it would be good for you.
EVERYTHING is "opt-out". Meaning, since there's dozens of new instances every day, there's also a handful of bad ones every week. So you'd have to literally live on Fediblock and Fediseer and make sure to stay on top of Oliphant's updates.
It would be quite stressful, I think.
I don't even do all of those things because they're too much to keep up with. However, I am not a visually impaired transgirl with major depression, anxiety, and past addiction issues, if you know what I mean. Because of who you are, it would be harder because you're someone that people look to attack, and that's really unfortunate.😔