@freemo I'd say the key is to just be honest.
If a person doesn't want to tolerate something, great! They should own it. I'm going to be intolerant about my friends being jerks in my living room.
Intolerance is not necessarily bad.
And in fact a person can highlight just how bad they consider something to be by saying, that idea is so unacceptable that I will be intolerant about it.
So I always tell people to just be honest, own what they are doing, don't try to rewrite the language instead because that just gets silly and even undermines their causes.