I compare to how I do social networking offline. It's all personal and nearly always opt-in.
One joins a tennis club and then has nerdy talk about 'ball spin' in the canteen. At school the meeting about next year's policy is only relevant to parents having their kids there.
Who starts shouting on the public square and expect people to close their ears if its not relevant to them?
Yet on fedi we get a single follower/following spout to filter many-community comms.