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> a male doesnt have to overpower to not consent to something like that.

Well, plus, you clock a fat chick and then the cops ask you what happened and you say "Officer...it was self-defense, she was trying to sexually assault me." and you're getting hauled off, not her.

> why didn't I report it?

I think the presumption that the cops need to be involved, that some third party should have authority over everything or it's not real, is some kind of modern disease. "I cannot make you do what I want, so I will call the police and they will force you." So you've got New York making it illegal for a landlord to misgender you, insane shit like that. This whole "IF IT WAS REAL, THEN WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL THE POLICE" shit is a facet of that. This was an interesting read: http://righteousmind.com/where-microaggressions-really-come-from/ . The idea in the paper he's discussing (attached) is that societies' moral cultures fall into three categories: "A Culture of Honor. Honor is a kind of status attached to physical bravery and the unwillingness to be dominated by anyone.", "A Culture of Dignity. [...] Rather than honor, a status based primarily on public opinion, people are said to have dignity, a kind of inherent worth that cannot be alienated by others.", and finally "A Culture of Victimhood. [...] A culture of victimhood is one characterized by concern with status and sensitivity to slight combined with a heavy reliance on third parties. [...] Domination is the main form of deviance, and victimization a way of attracting sympathy, so rather than emphasize either their strength or inner worth, the aggrieved emphasize their oppression and social marginalization." The paper argues that we're a "dignity" culture and slipping into a "victimhood" culture with the upcoming generation, and that was written about ten years ago (it's noted that the mindset is prevalent in college campuses), so we're there, those people are all (chonologically) adults.

Anyway, I think someone yelling that something isn't real unless you call the police is either grasping or fundamentally broken.
campbell2014--microaggression_and_moral_cultures.pdf