A kid who has seen porn for the first time has lost / gained something, so yes, they are ideally no longer a virgin.

Again in the case of "being gay," it is a way of comporting oneself to the world, which is ideal. This has been my position the entire time, so nothing has changed.

Go look at my post re "are you gay when you're not having sex?" You answered "yes." That only proves my point, which is that being gay is ideal ("id" is also the root of id-entity).

P.S. I also just solved the Incel dilemma. You're welcome.