But we're all equal, right? So why can't I say "nigger"? Because I'm White? I played street ball for years. I've earned my nigger pass.

Furthermore, discussions do not have to be kind, and sometimes can't be. This is just you fixing the game of discourse once again, just like you tried to do with your "good faith" theory. Needless to say, sometimes rheroric or demonstrative is the best method of explanation, and harsh or extreme rhetoric or demonstrative works best.

Additionally, if someone hazes you and you fold, you're probably not well equipped to have the difficult conversations, nor to enjoy edge lord humor. Thus, it serves a valid gate keeping function within certain communities, and here particularly, because many people in this community can go from toilet humor to very serious and conscientious discussion back to toilet humor within a few replies.

My own experience is that those who can't handle hazing are usually slow witted. They're really not made for the frat houses of life.