@goatsarah @matthieu_xyz
'Tiptoe around' seems apt, & I don't mean that in a hurt-feelings way. They wanted Mastodon's constraints to mean something outside of Mastodon & outside of a social contract, & neither of those was ever true. Back when I first got here, pointing that out could get one blocked.
It may not be something that can be done at all on ActivityPub. In fact (heresy!), ATProtocol might be better suited to those privacy-focused use-cases.