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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 08:19:04 JST Adrianna Tan

   I just read about people being asked to show their LinkedIn to get into clubs in SF

   This is why I don’t go out anymore

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 08:47:44 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • kessler herd immunity

     @kirakira the radical / queer stuff is still cool but even that’s mostly moved to Oakland

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     kessler herd immunity (kirakira@furry.engineer)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 08:47:45 JST kessler herd immunity

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     @skinnylatte LOL that place is like a self-referencing joke, it's gonna be so weird to find out it actually exists if i can ever go there

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 08:55:02 JST Adrianna Tan

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     Reddit comment: they want you to prove you can shake your B2B SaaS

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 09:04:58 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @mayintoronto haha this is a bouncer situation

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     May Likes Toronto (mayintoronto@beige.party)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 09:04:59 JST May Likes Toronto

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     @skinnylatte I ask people to show me their LinkedIn profile because it's the easiest way to see who's coming in. Getting people to fill out a form is hilariously a pain in the ass. It's easy when you already share your personal information publicly.

     There's also a field for more details if you don't have a LinkedIn.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 09:20:11 JST Adrianna Tan

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     There’s a ton of swingers and sex clubs here (not even mildly controversial just a fact of life) and i don’t feel any way about them, other than ‘what if you accidentally end up in an orgy with a VC’

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     Rich Felker (dalias@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 09:52:36 JST Rich Felker

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     • Jon

     @jdp23 @skinnylatte Yeah those sound like exactly the type of clubs you don't want to be at.

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     Jon (jdp23@neuromatch.social)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 09:52:37 JST Jon

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     Yikes ... it's like a stereotype of a stereotype, except it's real.

     Fortunately I'm happy to say that none of the clubs I go to in SF have ever asked for my LinkedIn -- or any other social media profile.

     @skinnylatte

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 10:27:31 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @rothko @jbaggs Rikki’s the lesbian bar in SF. recently had a ‘lesbian pie eating contest’. And @jwz’s @dnalounge

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     jbaggs (jbaggs@infosec.exchange)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 10:27:33 JST jbaggs

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     @skinnylatte Groucho Marx's comment upon leaving the Friars club comes to mind. Not the same kind of club of course, but that whole concept of being"exclusive"rankles me.

     Also surely there has to be somewhere in the area that isn't that.

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     lonely extrovert (rothko@beige.party)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 10:27:33 JST lonely extrovert

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     @jbaggs @skinnylatte in the bay area??

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 10:43:00 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @rothko

     @jbaggs @jwz @dnalounge Oakland as a whole I think is super cool and has the sort of stuff I love

     I feel less like that about SF (used to have it but declining in no) and definitely not in Palo Alto etc

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     lonely extrovert (rothko@beige.party)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 10:43:02 JST lonely extrovert

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     @skinnylatte @jbaggs @jwz @dnalounge so my cynicism is yet unwarranted... good to know.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 10:49:30 JST Adrianna Tan

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     Somehow this reminds me of another brand of startup hubris I utterly despised. In the mid 10s there were a bunch of ‘we wanna save the world through tech’ folks and they had a coworking space. The Hub? Something like that? Impact Hub? Depends where it was. It went by both names but had a similar ethos.

     In many of them, you couldn’t get the fucking wifi password without answering their gated wifi question: how are you planning to change the world?

     I always said fuck off and switched to my hotspot. Lol

     As someone who was actively involved in building movements in the developing world at the time I found this brand of.. whatever it is, distasteful.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 11:09:12 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @jbaggs

     @rothko @jwz @dnalounge no! It’s not dna lounge! I was responding to how it’s cooler than the exclusive LinkedIn asshole places

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     jbaggs (jbaggs@infosec.exchange)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 11:09:13 JST jbaggs

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     @skinnylatte @rothko @jwz @dnalounge DNA lounge requires Linkedin profiles? I mean, I understand it's not the same DNA lounge that existed in the 80's and 90's when I was frequently in SF, but still.... that feels a lot like the tour buses full of frat bros on Haight Street I encountered the last time I visited with a friend from the Netherlands.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 11:23:41 JST Adrianna Tan

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     My brain is taking me to all kinds of places with this thread.

     One time, I also read that the WeWork in mid market SF was a popular spot for orgies and I could not think of anything worse

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     Raven667 (raven667@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 02-Jan-2026 14:47:11 JST Raven667

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     @skinnylatte That is the most American business-brained nonsense I've ever heard of, 15-minute handjobs are probably a normal part of sex work anywhere in the world, but _incorporating_ and offering "training" and "retreats" like any other corporate consultancy is a unique take on the concept for sure. Way to SF business culture to take something normal (if a bit controversial/risque) and make it truely weird.