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   meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Thursday, 10-Oct-2024 20:22:23 JST meso

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   @mia @aetios @EmoIsDeadAndSoAmI I think transmascs might just stay in their previous spaces, instead of moving into "male" spaces, as it should just be a part of their identity rather than their entire one, just like transfems don't move into "female" spaces or anything. idk how lonely they are but I don't think most of them are around other men all that much
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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Thursday, 10-Oct-2024 20:24:58 JST meso

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     @mia @EmoIsDeadAndSoAmI @aetios the world of men is just as cold as any other world, only a small part is like that because of insecurity and being perceived as weak and effeminate (plenty of weak and effeminate men everywhere having lots of friends), it's mostly because most people are full of mental cope mechanisms and treat other people like shit in general. most of my problems with people (not just men) have boiled down to them acting like retards and being uninteresting, never about other things
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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Thursday, 10-Oct-2024 21:19:06 JST meso

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     @EmoIsDeadAndSoAmI @mia @aetios maybe I'm not the best example as I'm masculine and like being such a lot, but I'm certainly not the most masculine either, and I've both had plenty of great friendships where this wasn't an issue and been friends with people who are extremely feminine, and never given them any shit for it except out of concern for their well being in confrontations. My only problems have derived from me being different and weird, which is why I've only held a couple of close friends at most whereever I've lived IRL and most of my friends have been online.
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     SataNEET Panic (emoisdeadandsoami@mastodon.bv.linksjugend-solid.de)'s status on Thursday, 10-Oct-2024 21:19:08 JST SataNEET Panic

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     >plenty of weak and effeminate men everywhere having lots of close and affectionate friendships

     [citation needed]

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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Thursday, 10-Oct-2024 21:25:58 JST meso

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     @EmoIsDeadAndSoAmI @aetios @mia though like thinking about it, I had long hair for most of my childhood, and didn't try to act "masculine", I didn't feel the need to prove myself to anyone. and yet I don't think it's about femininity or masculinity in someone's character, simply the ability to stand up for yourself and protect your dignity from cheap attempts from horrible people to take it away from you, because it's lacking in them and they need something to feel good about. I had that because of good parenting, and so I never had any problems with people not respecting me. problems arise with me being different, and others not being trustworthy at all. I'd try to be friends with a lot of people and be stabbed in the back by most of them. it's not a male thing it's just a piece of shit thing.
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     meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Thursday, 10-Oct-2024 21:28:12 JST meso

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     @EmoIsDeadAndSoAmI @aetios @mia I've had effeminate friends and the only time I'd bring it up is when I can easily see that they're gonna get shit, or are getting shit from someone trying to find an easy victim to mess with. in that case they should toughen up and not let them do that, get into a fight if they must. it's just a part of life imo