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   Miia Mustang (miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:03:25 JST Miia Mustang

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   @lucy Completely normal, sensible and otherwise sound behavior from definitely a well adjusted person and not a weird-ass chan troll making shit up.

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     cipote :bishrexual: (teratology@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:03:18 JST cipote :bishrexual:

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     @miiamustang because women try to be nice and compliment people who don't pass to make them feel better, and some are self aware enough to realize they're getting clocked

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     Miia Mustang (miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:03:19 JST Miia Mustang

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     @teratology @lucy Whoa

     Those are some shitty friends then.

     Also pic provided mentions "random women", not sure how well that depicts friendships. 🤷♀️

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     cipote :bishrexual: (teratology@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:03:20 JST cipote :bishrexual:

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     @miiamustang @lucy passing is literally about whether or not you are perceived as female or male at the end of the day. People get treated differently based on that alone and being openly GnC is dangerous 9/10.

     Also I hate to break it to you but a lot of women lie to their trans friends about passing, because they feel bad or want to be nice. It's just the truth of it.

     Pic Rel.

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     Miia Mustang (miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:03:21 JST Miia Mustang

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     @lucy Nah

     Everything about this sounds more like a power fantasy of a "non-passing" chan troll to make themself feel a tiny sliver of emotion from seeing the replies to their shitty thread.

     Also, passing is a bs right-wing blunt weapon to keep trans people in line by leveraging dysphoria and warped beauty standards.

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     :blobcatflower: (methyltheobromine@netzsphaere.xyz)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:03:23 JST :blobcatflower:

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     @miiamustang sounds plausible to me
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     Miia Mustang (miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:03:24 JST Miia Mustang

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     @lucy Like

     The probability of cis friends throwing their friend under the bus like that the moment some stranger comes to "break it to her?"

     Bitch please :D

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     anemone@ebiverse.social's status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:26:13 JST anemone

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     @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi random strangers will still coddle you so trying to go stealth isn't a good indicator unless you live somewhere where it's dangerous to not pass

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     cipote :bishrexual: (teratology@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:26:15 JST cipote :bishrexual:

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     @miiamustang One time someone on xenofemmes wanted people honest opinion about dating lesbians and got mad at the truth that many are not interested in dating people who are male despite transitioning. The truth hurts sometimes, but most women usually lie to their friends and coddle them over their relationships and poor choices anyways.

     It's not far fetched that women would lie to their trans friends about passing, because if they were honest they'd lose their shit. My mutuals have openly admitted and told me that they will never see my FtM friend as a man. I'm not surprised at all. If you really want to be sure or certain go stealth and find out. There's a lot of coddling on social media.

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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:48:09 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     "Your own truth" is such a terrible concept
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     cipote :bishrexual: (teratology@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:48:10 JST cipote :bishrexual:

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     @anemone @miiamustang I have a MtF friend who is pretty accepting of her circumstances and biological reality so she has accepted that she will never truly look the same as a female in terms of bone structure, head size, etc. But she said that she regrets getting plastic surgery and work done, because people treat her better because of it but she finds that to be the problem and I agree.

     Sadly being gender conforming is still dangerous at this point in time so I can understand why people try hard to pass esp for the sake of their jobs and safety, but I think it's also unfair for trans women to hold themselves to the same standards the west has for conventional women's beauty standards. Most of us WoC don't even fit that standard anyways (not saying I understand the struggle of having dysphoria) so I think TW shouldn't either. I think it's much more liberating to live in your own truth than trying to convince others of it.

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     anemone@ebiverse.social's status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:51:45 JST anemone

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     @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi leg shortening would just fuck up your proportions imo plus getting both your legs broken and bolted back together sounds awful

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     anemone@ebiverse.social's status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:51:46 JST anemone

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     @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi i need to get more work done but unfortunately i cant fix my height

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     cipote :bishrexual: (teratology@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:51:46 JST cipote :bishrexual:

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     @anemone @miiamustang if it makes you feel better there are short kings who get leg lengthening surgery or some other shit, I have girlfriends who are 6ft and not trans either

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     anemone@ebiverse.social's status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:51:47 JST anemone

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     @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi oh yeah i agree but unfortunately you do

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     anemone@ebiverse.social's status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:51:48 JST anemone

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     @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi why would getting treated better be a problem? On a societal scale, yes, it's a problem but i'd rather be treated better as opposed to worse lol

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     cipote :bishrexual: (teratology@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:51:48 JST cipote :bishrexual:

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     @anemone @miiamustang I mean I guess the way she framed it was that she felt that she shouldn't need to have gotten plastic surgery to be treated decently in society. She's latina as well so I can understand since our families tend to be more conservative and less accepting than I've seen from white parents in the states. Ofc that might vary depending if religion is involved but most latinos are religious af.

     Her partner of years was Indigenous Mexican and lemme tell you.... he threw her into the wolves den. Not literally, but almost literally 😭 because she didn't have surgeries or work done back then and as soon and she met his family, his brother saw her, took one look up and down, and ran to the kitchen to tell his mom that his brother brought home a "vato" 💀

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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:56:21 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     I interpreted it to mean that you should be willing to delude yourself if it satisfies your intrusive thoughts, which I think is what it means tbh. But you're right that any woman willing to talk to troons irl is just going to be nice for safety reasons or political reasons too
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     cipote :bishrexual: (teratology@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 08:56:22 JST cipote :bishrexual:

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     @bot @anemone @miiamustang I don't think there's anything wrong with trans people admitting and/or accepting that they can't attain something that is impossible.

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     受不了包 (shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 21:44:03 JST 受不了包

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     @nik @ciel@kokoro.garden @anemone@ebiverse.social @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi people in general are the same way about height as being traditionally attractive also, its pretty dumb but i'm not sure that will ever be changed let alone in my lifetime. maybe we can all be 6 feet tall halo master chiefs with gene editing i cant remember what the really tall people are called rn

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     taylor (nik@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 21:44:04 JST taylor

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     @ciel@kokoro.garden @anemone@ebiverse.social @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi the only effective cope is to not think about it too hard

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     calm engine ✨ sinkuchan (ciel@kokoro.garden)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 21:44:05 JST calm engine ✨ sinkuchan

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     @anemone @teratology @miiamustang i read this shit and even telling myslef its some psycho on an imageboard its like, damn, im so distraught i get a flash in my head like wanna puke. ive lost 30lbs and even if i lose more weight ive just got unfixable shit wrong with my shape.

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     受不了包 (shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Wednesday, 25-Sep-2024 21:49:49 JST 受不了包

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     @nik @ciel@kokoro.garden @anemone@ebiverse.social @teratology@the.asbestos.cafe @miiamustang@eliitin-some.fi the only thing to do is be the best you can be in your own constraints imo, just getting fit would help a lot of people