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   Paul Cantrell (inthehands@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 01:24:33 JST Paul Cantrell

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   • 🌈Lucy🏳️‍⚧️ | Revoluciana
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   @revoluciana @seachanger
   This just crossed my TL: a history of quantitative pessimism being proven wrong over and over.

   https://mas.to/@osma/112766679759285368

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     🌈Lucy🏳️‍⚧️ | Revoluciana (revoluciana@chaosfem.tw)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 01:24:34 JST 🌈Lucy🏳️‍⚧️ | Revoluciana

     Can we start a radical optimism thread? Because I need a #radical optimism thread. And I think you need a #radicaloptimism thread.

     News. Quotes. Music. Thoughts. Whatever.

     I'll start:

     "You have to act as if it were possible to radically transform the world. And you have to do it all the time." --Angela Davis

     If this gets any traction, please boost, especially the replies. You and I are not the only ones that need this right now.

     Church of Jeff repeated this.
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     Kit Rhett Aultman (roadriverrail@signs.codes)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 02:01:48 JST Kit Rhett Aultman

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     @NicolaElle @pdcawley @revoluciana
     I tried to transition 22 years ago, but without non-binary identities existing in culture, I couldn't get even the basics of support, and patched back up the cracks in my egg. I spent about 20 years seeing it as a sacrifice I made to build a good life for me and my partner. Then, at 40, I realized that noble sacrifice now felt like punishing regret, that my youth was nearing its end, and there was a femme inside me screaming at me for her neglect. So, yeah.

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     Nicola Helle 😈🏳️‍⚧️😈 (nicolaelle@chaosfem.tw)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 02:01:49 JST Nicola Helle 😈🏳️‍⚧️😈

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     @pdcawley @revoluciana That's one of the critical things to note about all of this - just how many people are transitioning later in life. We realize that life is too short to waste time being something we're not.

     Shortly before I turned 40, I was at a stoplight thinking about my grandparents. One died in an accident, but one had lived into his 80s, one had lived into her 90s, and one was still living (and IS still living, at 102!). I realized I could potentially live 50 more years.

     And the thought of living a half-century more as a guy filled me with absolute horror.

     It was still 4 more years before I began transitioning.

     So... my message.

     Those whose eggs have cracked and still waiting... it's not too late.

     Young adults who have gone through puberty, it's not too late.

     Parents with families, it's not too late.

     Empty nesters, it's not too late.

     Retirees, it's not too late.

     And as for Lou... rest in power, girl. We're glad you found happiness.

     :QueerCatHeart_Trans:

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     Piers Cawley (pdcawley@mendeddrum.org)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 02:01:50 JST Piers Cawley

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     @NicolaElle @revoluciana Dunno if it's strictly #radicaloptimism, but a friend of mine, Lou, transitioned in her seventies. I phoned her when I found out to congratulate her and find out how she was doing.

     "Well," she said, "I'm finding out who my friends are, and so far it's all of them"

     She didn't have long as herself, but my god, she enjoyed those years.

     RIP Lou Killen.

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     Nicola Helle 😈🏳️‍⚧️😈 (nicolaelle@chaosfem.tw)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 02:01:51 JST Nicola Helle 😈🏳️‍⚧️😈

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     @revoluciana Radical optimism.

     Okay.

     A bunch of old trans folks, who've all seen a lot of shit, meeting together in a coffee shop.

     That's my dream. That's what keeps me going. To be an old woman, comfortable with herself and her life, chatting away in a coffee shop with friends.

     :QueerCatHeart_Trans:

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     Kit Rhett Aultman (roadriverrail@signs.codes)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 04:06:05 JST Kit Rhett Aultman

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     @revoluciana @NicolaElle @pdcawley Really should have made that a two-parter, because I still got my 40s to be a more full version of myself, I've made some physical changes that have done a lot for me, and while I feel the loss of realizing I deserved to have my younger years lived this way, I also know I'll go into my 50s far better than I went into my 40s. And who knows? Maybe later in life I'll try out some E and find out what that's like. I don't feel a hurry now.

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     🌈Lucy🏳️‍⚧️ | Revoluciana (revoluciana@chaosfem.tw)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 04:06:07 JST 🌈Lucy🏳️‍⚧️ | Revoluciana

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     @roadriverrail 🫂💜

     @NicolaElle @pdcawley

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     🌈Lucy🏳️‍⚧️ | Revoluciana (revoluciana@chaosfem.tw)'s status on Saturday, 13-Jul-2024 08:58:11 JST 🌈Lucy🏳️‍⚧️ | Revoluciana

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     Because of the tireless work of my wife's advocacy, we just learned that the hospital is again making bigger fixes to the pronouns and preferred name documentation in their computer systems.

     Speaking up works. But you have to learn to be loud, even when people who wish society was a library keep pointing to imaginary "be quiet" signs.