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   💜 Dr. Blight ❤️ (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 13:42:47 JST 💜 Dr. Blight ❤️

   PSA - The terms AMAB and AFAB are just misgendering with extra steps.

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     💜 Dr. Blight ❤️ (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 13:54:02 JST 💜 Dr. Blight ❤️

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     @ari most times I've seen it it would be better replaced with transmasc/transfem

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     ari melody 💫 (ari@wetdry.world)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 13:54:03 JST ari melody 💫

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     @Rasp i don't mind it in medical circumstances (mostly because biological sex, in most cases, is quite important to get right for proper treatment)

     but i agree that when people use those terms outside of where absolutely necessary, it can certainly come off as malicious compliance at best

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     ari melody 💫 (ari@wetdry.world)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 13:56:47 JST ari melody 💫

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     @Rasp i've seen a lot of people get confused about the ambiguity of the terms- i.e., does transmasc mean "transitioned from masculine" or "transitioned to masculine"?

     i've actually come across many cases of well-meant people getting this mixed up

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     💜 Dr. Blight ❤️ (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 13:56:47 JST 💜 Dr. Blight ❤️

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     @ari I always thought it mean trans person who presents predominately masculine

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     💜 Dr. Blight ❤️ (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 13:59:16 JST 💜 Dr. Blight ❤️

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     @ari There is also Trans Androgyne for anyone who likes to strike the middle or leave it ambious

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     ari melody 💫 (ari@wetdry.world)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 13:59:17 JST ari melody 💫

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     @Rasp same here! to me it makes more sense for the more respectful term to refer to the person's realised identity, rather than the former

     i don't know if this is a thought that crosses through the minds of most cis people though, which is kinda understandable

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     💜 Dr. Blight ❤️ (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 14:00:49 JST 💜 Dr. Blight ❤️

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     • ari melody 💫

     @ari @Paradox which is why the whole AMAB/AFAB thing bothers me cause its basically the same thing

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     ari melody 💫 (ari@wetdry.world)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 14:00:51 JST ari melody 💫

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     @Paradox @Rasp yeah! this exactly :)

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     Paradox (paradox@raru.re)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 14:00:53 JST Paradox

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     @ari @Rasp
     There was a time when I didn't know whether trans girl meant transing to or from girl. Eventually I figured it out and reasoned that a trans person probably wouldn't want to broadcast the gender they were born with in their self labelling.

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     💜 Dr. Blight ❤️ (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 14:01:13 JST 💜 Dr. Blight ❤️

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     @ari Nonbinary people can be transmasc/fem if they present as such

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     ari melody 💫 (ari@wetdry.world)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 14:01:14 JST ari melody 💫

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     @Rasp i've definitely heard more people use "nonbinary" for that, but that's certainly good to know!!

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     💜 Dr. Blight ❤️ (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 14:04:54 JST 💜 Dr. Blight ❤️

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     @ari I would technically fall under NB / Transfem. I'm Technically NB and prefer to present a bit more feminine.

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     ari melody 💫 (ari@wetdry.world)'s status on Sunday, 03-Dec-2023 14:04:55 JST ari melody 💫

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     @Rasp i've seen this too- recently, even!

     i've never been nonbinary (always had a lean to some gender through my life) so i can't say i have the personal experience to fully understand it, but of course one's identity is theirs to discover :>