This is an extremally fascinating and sorrowful case of our humanity and sinfulness.
So many questions to answer, one primarily I have yet to address but would like to analyze: Why did the wife engage with and support the behavior? And others, why post it online? Was the risk of being caught part of the thrill and drive? The greater social status he got as a spiritual/economic/political leader, the greater satisfaction he felt 'getting away with it'?
There's a lot to understand here and try to use as advice for our guys that are going to fall into this porn trap and end up a furry or tranny or whatever.
For me it's primarily interesting because he was a baptist pastor that (in my listening to his sermons) gets a ton of doctrine right, including being saved by faith alone. I'd probably laugh and say 'told you so' if he was some faggot demonomination like methodist but no - southern baptist. What is the drive, cause, and effect of his behavior? How can we prevent our guys from going down a similar path and imploding their families because they can't overcome the jewish mind poison?
I have already written around 3500 words on this event. Cutting it down of course but there's just so much here and hard to organize it in a way that's not just "look how fucked up this guy was" - have to try to use a man's failure for the good of others.
I can't answer for the wife, but I suspect a lot of people let slip their fetishes and stuff to see who is supportive of them when courting potential mates. His wife might have been onboard from the beginning.
It is like James Gunn and the pedo jokes. People sometimes out their weirdness to see who is accepting of it and who isn't. I think if a joke comes up too often in someone's repitore you should be concerned. On that note, going to lay off the dead hooker jokes for a little bit.
As to the public face being different from the private face, sometimes guilt fuels these things. See: male feminist and other religious conservatives who turned out to be sexual predators, have extreme fetishes, or be the biggest faggots you could ever imagine.
I don't know how often this guy preached against homosexuality or transgender stuff but what I am saying is if a person obsesses over something too much, especially if they hyper focus, you should be concerned.
I don't know what to do. No one likes a moralfag. You want to be supportive and helpful, not a nag. And in the case of the 'secret life' stuff it would be disasterous to accuse them of it. If you read too far into something then you insult them, if you are right you just scare them back into their shell.
All I know is if someone comes out as a tranny to you be a friend and try to get them to stop, or at the very least keep them from going further into it. If they aren't being open and public about it it is probably because they know it is wrong.
Best advice I can think of on how to deal with this.
I have a strong anti-porn sermon I am writing with this man as the ensample of the worst-case scenario, but during my research I have yet to hear any of his preaching that would indicate other than being a believer, despite using some modern NASB baloney bible.