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   camarade steph (stephagain@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:23 JST camarade steph
   getting drunk. I'm going to regret it
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     Matron of the ninth circle (grumpyoldnurse@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:20 JST Matron of the ninth circle

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     @GalacticTurtle @susansiens @stephagain People act offended because you're a woman with clear boundaries who actually enforces them, not because they don't think anyone would slip you an unwanted alcoholic drink.
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     camarade steph (stephagain@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:20 JST camarade steph

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     @GrumpyOldNurse @GalacticTurtle @susansiens yes people are super offended by women with boundaries.
     that's 100% what people are offended by.
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     susansiens (susansiens@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:21 JST susansiens

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     @stephagain @GalacticTurtle @GrumpyOldNurse And it can be very difficult to keep people from pressing alcohol or alcohol-containing foods on other people, even when they have been refused. I can only assume it's because the pushy person wants to justify their own habit.
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     GalacticTurtle (galacticturtle@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:21 JST GalacticTurtle

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     • susansiens
     @susansiens @stephagain @GrumpyOldNurse There were two occasions in college when I was given an alcoholic drink as a joke. So these days when I'm handed a supposedly non-alcoholic drink in a party setting then examine it and people act offended that I'd be suspicious, I wonder if now that I'm part of an older demographic that's just not something anyone would do or if that person is simply underestimating what others might find humorous.
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     Matron of the ninth circle (grumpyoldnurse@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:22 JST Matron of the ninth circle

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     @stephagain I hear you. I still have rules about how much, and when. I'm better at sticking to my rules than I used to be, but it never seems to go away entirely.
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     susansiens (susansiens@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:22 JST susansiens

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     @GrumpyOldNurse @stephagain I said to an alcoholic (who does not drink) that I only have alcohol when I have a taste for it, which is fairly infrequently. He pointed out that no one who is alcoholic can even comprehend not having a "taste for it."
     
     If it's not clear what I mean, I think about what I would like to eat or drink. If something I think of is unappealing, I say I have no taste for it.
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     camarade steph (stephagain@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:22 JST camarade steph

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     • susansiens
     @susansiens @GrumpyOldNurse I was lucky enough that I noticed I was becoming an alcoolic before I really became one.
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     GalacticTurtle (galacticturtle@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:22 JST GalacticTurtle

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     @stephagain @susansiens @GrumpyOldNurse Once when it was revealed I don't drink alcohol, a group of people asked me what I do when I have the urge to drink alcohol. I said I never had an urge to drink it and they said I was being untruthful. But drinking all the time is so normal in my line of work, perhaps everyone really does have a bit of an addiction going on.
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     camarade steph (stephagain@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:22 JST camarade steph

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     @GalacticTurtle @susansiens @GrumpyOldNurse I never question anyone when they refuse alcohol because I assume they might be fighting an addiction
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     Matron of the ninth circle (grumpyoldnurse@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:23 JST Matron of the ninth circle

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     @stephagain So, you better make sure to enjoy it now.
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     camarade steph (stephagain@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:23 JST camarade steph

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     @GrumpyOldNurse I sould not drink it is bad for me
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     Matron of the ninth circle (grumpyoldnurse@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:23 JST Matron of the ninth circle

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     @stephagain It's bad for everybody, especially to excess.
     
     But once in a while...
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     camarade steph (stephagain@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 13-Jul-2023 08:16:23 JST camarade steph

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     @GrumpyOldNurse when I was 27 I was living in an hostel and noticed that I was drinking in a coffee mug to make sure people people did not notice how much I was drinking.
     I kne I had to stop there or it would be too late.
     went 100% sober for 2 years . now I am carefull. I know I have this in me