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   Jonobie (jonobie@social.coop)'s status on Saturday, 11-Mar-2023 11:48:22 JST Jonobie

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   @mekkaokereke @being @iyalei “Everyone gets the same access to present to senior leadership. No one gets talked over.” When I was junior, I had a chance to present to a VP. Exciting! I was one of two women in the room! Partway through, a senior man cut me off and talked over me. The VP turned directly back to me and said three words that nearly made me cry in gratitude: “Were you done?” I was a fan of his ever after. It’s not hard to do, but people gotta NOTICE.

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     mekka okereke :verified: (mekkaokereke@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 11-Mar-2023 11:48:24 JST mekka okereke :verified:

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     @being @iyalei

     Half of my Senior Tech Leads are women. Because I don't tell them to tone down their assertiveness. That would be giving women something to do.

     Instead, I make sure that the communication playing field is the same for everyone regardless of gender. Everyone gets the same access to present to senior leadership. No one gets talked over. No one gets ignored.

     This can't make a woman a better TL. She is who she is.??♂️

     But it does reduce the "performance drag" of extra work.

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     • mekka okereke :verified:

     @iyalei @mekkaokereke haha yes! Different guy told me i was aggressive too, when i defended my ideas. And then another woman friend was told "people only agree with you because they're scared of you." ?
     I think they're just a bit uncomfortable with us and they would rather think it's our fault