Notices by Chilly ❄️ Grinches 🤶🏻 (tillybridges@mastodon.social), page 4

SEXUALITY IS NOT GENDER is about how the two get conflated in our society of compulsory cisgender heterosexuality

it's also how difficult it can be to figure out you're trans when you're also very very gay, and aren't sure if you're attracted to that lady or if you want to BE her (it's both?!)

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/sexuality-is-not-gender/

A TRANS RE-WEDDING is about how @susanlbridges and I redid our wedding so we could have one with the real me

it was the best day of my life, full of love and friends and Star Trek, and it was an entirely different reality than the first time around

what a difference a life makes

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/a-trans-re-wedding/

STOP STARING AT US is about how a whole lot of cis people seem to think it’s super great to stare and gawk at us when they can’t immediately figure out our gender

and it happens WAAAAY more often than you might believe, to ludicrous degrees

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/stop-staring-at-us-trans-people-are-human-beings/

UNEXPECTED CHANGES FROM TRANSITION is about little things that changed after transition

like how HRT brought mental changes, and what I needed to pack for a trip now that I actually care about myself

includes my wild ONLY AT SDCC story!

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/unexpected-changes-from-transition/

UNEXPECTED BONUSES OF TRANSITION is about how there's a whole host of little wonders that come along with finally getting to be your true self, and what a delight they are

like finally being "allowed" to like my favorite color

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/unexpected-bonuses-of-transition/

Welcome to #TransTuesday!

Let’s talk about something that I think nearly every trans person who transitions as an adult wakes up to, and something many cis people probably never even realize happens.

TRANS TRAUMA 2: SOCIETAL GASLIGHTING.

Because when an *entire society* lies to you about what you know to be true? It REALLY messes you up.

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/12/17/trans-trauma-2-societal-gaslighting/

C A U G H T 👀

this week’s essay is about what a lifetime of dysphoria can do to a person, even years and years later when dysphoria is all but gone

it’s always with us

but it doesn’t have to be that way

accepting trans kids when they tell you who they are can save them from a lifetime of this 🩷

Welcome to #TransTuesday!

This week we’re discussing an unhappy surprise that brought up feelings I thought were far behind me. It kinda wrecked me for a bit.

Here’s TRANS TRAUMA 1: THAT OLD DYSPHORIC FEELING.

When you've lived a lifetime with dysphoria, it can come back to haunt you in all kinds of unexpected ways.

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/transphobia-is-always-with-us-that-old-dysphoric-feeling/

I’m a woman of deep unshakeable conviction and faith

because i believe in the holy Trinity

@texas_tall mm what if I told you Neo and Trinity are in fact the same person, and Neo can only see the code because he’s on the path to becoming Trinity

https://mastodon.social/@tillybridges/111728162648280707

here’s a really important bit i don’t want you to miss

Welcome to #TransTuesday!

This week we’re talking about a change nearly every trans person hopes for but never knows if it’ll arrive… seeing our true selves in photos.

Here comes PHOTOS 2: THE SELFIE APOCALYPSE!

Last week we talked about how difficult not seeing ourselves in photos can be. Now you can follow along in real time as all that changed for me, and I had no idea what was happening.

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/09/photos-2-the-selfie-apocalypse/

we're a menace!

it’s Trans Day of Remembrance, where we honor those we’ve lost to violence

which is some 350 of us worldwide

but there’s something i need you to know

the numbers are much higher

1/

https://www.thepinknews.com/2024/11/20/trans-day-of-remembrance-at-least-350-trans-people-killed-globally-this-year/

pre-coffee thoughts with Tilly:

that drop of coffee when you pull the pot out that falls and sizzles on the warming plate is by design, to get you excited for the coffee caffeine brain sizzling that’s about to happen

this has been pre-coffee thoughts with Tilly

it's also intentional misgendering, btw

which shows your acceptance of someone's pronouns is conditional on you approving of them, meaning the second you don't like something a trans person does you'll misgender us, too

pronouns and names are not jokes

just use all his very bad words and actions!

psst c’mere a sec

stop calling Musk “Elonia”

it disrespects a real name, something transphobes do

it perpetuates that it’s funny for a perceived cis man to be associated with femininity, something transphobes do

Musk is a horrid transphobe, you are helping him and hurting US

please stop

am i at a kitten fair?

I AM AT A KITTEN FAIR 🩷🩷🩷

portrait of a lady who pounced on my toes under the blankets at 4:45 am and then CHOMPED them hard enough to make me squeal

a hooligette!