It's interesting whenever I see criticism of push back on Devs who don't ask before repurposing other folks public posts.
On the fediverse we do have an expectation of asking nicely first.
So whenever I see criticism of pushback phrased as scolding. I'm always reminded of the scolds bridle.
Because often the pushback does come from vulnerable folks. To reduce the issue and to try to discourage further pushback us to try to stifle future pushback. Don't do that.