Notices by taedryn 🏳️‍⚧️ (taedryn@dice.camp)

Dear society: you could just drop "sir" and "ma'am" and other gendered terms from your public service patter. Literally no one would know it wasn't there, and you'd save so much grief in the world.

"Thanks, have a good day!" has the same weight and impact as "Thanks, have a good day, sir!" No one would know. You could make this change right now, and save the sanity of so many people, trans and cis alike.

#trans #kindness

For any US/PR trans femme folks who don't already know about this, I just signed up for this study in the hopes it'll increase our base of data for trans femme folks:

https://theencorestudy.org

Looks easy to do and seems to be funded and run by reasonable people (though I haven't dived deep on it).

I figure more data is good, and I'm curious to see what they ask me.

Hey all, looks like I'm in the market for a new job for real this time. Senior software developer, skilled in Python, automation, system design, and a bunch of other stuff, really good at getting along with people, also a teacher and good technical writer. Looking for jobs that make the world a better place to be. Like, I'll take a serious pay cut to work in the right place. Primarily remote required. Please boost, thanks!

Anyone else seeing a lot of shit coming from detroitriotcity.com? I've gotten numerous transphobes from there today. @sage curious if you're seeing more of that. I'm about to block the domain for myself, but wanted to raise it in case others are seeing similar problems. #FediBlock

It's not quite a salad, but very nearly. Today's veg-heavy wrap.

Maybe today's a good day not to be on the internet.

Oof. I wasn't feeling particularly dysphoric going in, but I sure feel it coming out. Victoria's Secret is not a place for the faint of heart.

@roadriverrail Yeah, this was obviously a burner account, so who knows if that report will have much effect. It's always sad to see that kind of thing, though. Ironically, I never once got hit on the bird site in the year-plus I was plausibly trans there, and I've gotten it twice here. That's more about the luck of the draw than anything else, though.

Apparently sometimes you come home to transphobes randomly attacking. Weird. Reported and blocked, buh-bye.

Thank you so much to all the mods who must have to deal with this shit every day. I hope you can rotate out so you're not constantly on-call to see that kind of garbage.

@roadriverrail London seems like a pretty viable playground. Sounds like a nice break!

@roadriverrail @Willow I'm thinking of having a Primary Skills section, and a Secondary Skills section, to clarify the things I'm really good at, and the things I know well enough to come up to speed on quickly. That seems to cut to the heart of the matter as well as any of these.

@Willow @roadriverrail funny enough, I just got advice that that kind of progress bar, which I also liked seeing on a resume when I was involved in hiring, is bad and should be avoided (if you list less than 5/5, you're listing your incompetencies, goes the argument).

@roadriverrail I wish I still had my old daisy wheel printer. That fucker had class just rolling off it. Not that anyone's going to see a physical copy of this resume, like, ever.

Part of my challenge is that my previous resume looked 100% like I typeset it in TeX, and I'm trying to make my new resume feel different. I'm a different person. This is certainly a vanity thing, but I don't want to present myself like I did when I thought I was a boy.

@Willow @roadriverrail Do you *like* seeing LinkedIn resumes, or is that just what you see a lot of? I don't want to be one of the crowd, if I can stand out a little bit.

@roadriverrail I mean, to be clear, if I go the TeX route, it'll definitely be written in vi.

@roadriverrail Maybe I should give up on Scribus and go back to TeX. The layout would be cleaner, though I personally find resumes laid out like that to be desperately boring and completely forgettable.

I'm laying out my resume right now, and after some good feedback on my dony't question last night, realized I should tap into the well of tech hiring experience here.

What has made a resume or CV for a tech position stand out as good to you? Particular layouts? Inclusion or exclusion of particular information? Density or sparseness of design? Uniqueness in a particular way? Language use?

My mind is blown. Doing youth flights at a rural airport. I was ready for misgendering. I was ready for hate. I was not ready for the family of the first kid I flew to correct themselves when they accidentally misgendered me. I was flabbergasted when the workers at the airport cafe accepted my ma'am correction immediately, corrected each other, and apologized for getting it wrong. Have I found trans fairyland? 😍🥴🥲

No, I think people are just much less shitty than their politicians are.

@roadriverrail Ooh, congrats! Laser worked really well for me, I hope you have similar success. The biggest single regret I have about my transition timing is that I waited until my beard was substantially grey. Probably made laser less painful, but electro doesn't sound any better. 😅

I have my first electrolysis session tomorrow morning. My face hasn't been this fuzzy in several years. I don't love it, but at least I don't hate it. So looking forward to shaving, though. I will be so pleased if I can get to the point where I don't have to shave regularly. That's the dream.