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   taedryn 🏳️‍⚧️ (taedryn@dice.camp)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 09:24:31 JST taedryn 🏳️‍⚧️

   Dear society: you could just drop "sir" and "ma'am" and other gendered terms from your public service patter. Literally no one would know it wasn't there, and you'd save so much grief in the world.

   "Thanks, have a good day!" has the same weight and impact as "Thanks, have a good day, sir!" No one would know. You could make this change right now, and save the sanity of so many people, trans and cis alike.

   #trans #kindness

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     Kit Rhett Aultman (roadriverrail@signs.codes)'s status on Monday, 04-Mar-2024 05:14:22 JST Kit Rhett Aultman

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     • popey

     @popey @taedryn At least here in the southern states, "sir/ma'am" isn't read as passive aggressive. It's just a tag word to change the politeness level. It also denotes a certain friendliness among strangers.

     I am, however, ready for it to phase out. It's a heavily gendered usage and that won't change, so it has to go. And its use is fading, albeit slowly.

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     popey (popey@mastodon.social)'s status on Monday, 04-Mar-2024 05:14:23 JST popey

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     @taedryn As a Brit, I have never understood the "Sir" thing Americans do. It's a super weird, almost passive-aggressive way to address people.