@wjmaggos
I really love the idea of "big fedi" for the same reason I love the web for what it is. The social layer itself seems to be a point of contention because people largely don't see websites existing on the clearnet (or darknets) as in association with each other by default.
More and more I begin to wonder if "Big Fedi" is possible as a project at all, due to the fact that it requires some form of social contract that can't reasonably be enforced.
An uncharitable take would be that "Big Fedi" can't work because it's the tragedy of the commons applied to social currency. (which is what drives HOA Fedi behavior)
But my optimistic nature leads me to believe that a "Big tent Fedi" can and will exist if progress is made against the "us vs them" fights in society. So I would say if we want cooperation and co-existence in cyberspace, we need it IRL as well.