This post brought to you by some fuckless wonder trying to tell people half his age that "real" D&D only works with alignments and hard alignment requirements. [rolls eyes] Seriously just go play the game your way and stop frothing at the mouth about your pet peeves and post-midlife crises man-baby feels. Fuck.
And I advise applying this sentiment liberally to any bigoted or gaslighting fucker you might encounter.