Notices by Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach (hmm_cook@universeodon.com), page 9

The process of renegotiating relationships may be very uncomfortable, because it’s unfamiliar, but it can still be a good thing.

#healthycommunication #healthyrelationships #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

@purlturtle Yes! Absolutely!

If you can understand what is draining your energy, and what gives you energy, and you can manage what’s going on, you can use that information to avoid collapsing in overwhelm or pushing beyond your exhaustion to collapsing in that way as well.

#ActuallyAutistic #EnergyManagement #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery #AutisticBurnout

People are going to respond to the exact same thing in different ways because they have their own histories, and you’re not going to be able to always know that.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

I Said No: How I Dealt with Anxiety Waiting for a Backlash

https://youtube.com/watch?v=ooqnf2CpN5g&t=803s

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Anxiety

If you try unmasking, and it goes well, and you get a wave of anxiety afterwards: that is an entirely normal reaction.

It’s not a signal that anything went wrong. It’s a protective strategy that some of our brains are very accustomed to doing.

#AutisticMasking #Anxiety #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #unmasking

Autistic nervous systems get overloaded more quickly #actuallyautistic #burnedout 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pNGGjqU3R0g

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #Neurodivergent #ND

You’re not alone. You’re not the only one who feels that. You’re not the only one who’s weird in that particular way.

(And I use weird as like a reclaimed word; I love weird. I love being weird.)

#NeuroDivergent #Neurodiversity #Neurodiverse #ND #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

What's wrong with them?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G7ssRZiNdNE&t=7s

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Anxiety

When your body is thinking about something and you feel awful, there’s information there.

You have information about what feels okay to you.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Interoception

For those of us who have a more intense trauma history, the way we react to a particular situation is based upon how we’re used to reacting to that from a protective mechanism.

But it’s not actually the current situation. And simply noticing that is helpful.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #NeuroDivergent #ND

The Danger Of Assuming People Wanted The Life They Got

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hF3K4WFxZNc

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #Neurodivergent #ND

If you just show up and go, “This is me, and I’m weird in this particular way and that’s a great thing.” And they’re like, “Great! I’m weird too, in this other way.” And you both just accept each other, that’s just the best thing ever.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #unmasking #healthyrelationships

Some places and people might never be safe in this current version of our world.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

Here's why I’m NOT raising my prices:

https://www.autismchrysalis.com/2023/12/26/why-im-not-raising-my-prices/

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity

There is a whole community of Autistics out there struggling with burnout, exhaustion, social interactions, exclusion, lack of accommodations, sensory overwhelm, and more.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

And these things are not intrinsic to Autism. They are part of how society is designed to exclude differences to try to get us to conform.

They can be changed and we will all be better off for it.

#Autism #autistic #ActuallyAutistic #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance #Understanding