Notices by Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach (hmm_cook@universeodon.com), page 8

Here's my Autistic perspective on thank you notes: how and why they work, and why it's not a waste of time or caving to senseless social norms.

https://youtu.be/ndCchuiavxA

#healthycommunication #healthyrelationships #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy

Use anything that you can, any physical thing around you, to ground yourself in the present moment and focus on one single sensory experience.

#ActuallyAutistic #Sensory #Interoception

How To Process Info With Brain Fog

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TgbeIi7sGnw&t=2s

#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

Intentionally reinforcing successes helps to reteach your nervous system, and your psyche, that alternatives are possible.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Anxiety

Why Thank You Notes Work

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndCchuiavxA

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #Neurodivergent #ND

Once you’ve unmasked, you’re going to find new relationships that are attracting the kinds of people that your unmasked self really resonates with.

#unmasking #AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD

Why You Can't Get Your Needs Met By Setting Boundaries

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p1jxcQkovBg

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #healthyrelationships

It’s important to accept that it’s impossible to always communicate perfectly, you can’t always get it right.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery #Acceptance

If the goal is for other people to adapt to and accept us, they need info and neutral or positive experiences over time with us. And we need neutral or positive experiences over time with them.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autism #autistic #AuDHD #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance

@andolamin One bit at a time. :)

Unmasking is unlearning the damaging ways that we’ve learned to be around people.

#unmasking #AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity

Meltdowns are not tantrums. How to hack them. #actuallyautistic #burnedout #neurotribes 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ydc_uACJFpI

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #Neurodivergent #ND

All of these systems that are trauma-based systems (society, capitalism, white supremacy culture, patriarchy, etc.), expect the impossible from us.

They expect us to work full time, take care of kids, have good relationships, have a broad social network, change the world and do it all without breaking a sweat, and never complaining, and never noticing that you need anything ever.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

@andolamin That's only possible until a point, and then bankruptcy...burnout.

When our sensory needs aren’t met, when they’re ignored, that increases anxiety and higher anxiety activates the stress responses in the nervous system, which makes sensory processing even more challenging.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Sensory #Interoception #Anxiety

Are Big Life Changes Worth It?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SSp84FHFo6c&t=61s

#AutisticBurnout #Autistic #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery #Growth

Empowering Your Work-Life: Requesting Accommodations for Anxiety and Panic Attacks | https://CPTSDfoundation.org https://cptsdfoundation.org/2024/10/24/empowering-your-work-life-requesting-accommodations-for-anxiety-and-panic-attacks/

When you borrow energy from your future self it collects at a very high interest rate.

#ActuallyAutistic #EnergyManagement #AuDHD #AutisticBurnout

@Aspiedan Yes, this is just the title, the "how to" is a book!
Wishing you well!

Not showing anyone our true selves

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAS4pqzMQa8

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #Neurodivergent #ND