Notices by Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach (hmm_cook@universeodon.com), page 7

There will be some existing relationships that you’re going to let go because it’s just not worth putting in the energy to work through them.

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Notice how much energy various tasks are costing you. And specifically, what about it uses the most energy? What can you do about that part of it, that is using the energy?

#Interoception #EnergyManagement #BurnoutRecovery #ActuallyAutistic

If the goal is acceptance, any gradual move toward that counts as success.

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What's Next After Adult Autism Identification?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LBW4gDVZDw&t=28s

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When we’re not presenting our real self, we don’t give the other people opportunities to actually get to know us.

#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD

When I got my autism diagnosis #actuallyautistic 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tk54wkD_cNU

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Remind yourself when things go okay, that it's okay.

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Our autistic sensory experiences are just different from a lot of people’s. And when we get messages that it’s not okay to be different, we try to ignore that instead of actually meeting our needs.

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Why NOT Get the Worst Over With First

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6w4vFEq6G4&t=1s

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Not all social expectations are good or healthy, and they’re not all unjust or damaging. You get to decide which ones you spend your energy on.

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@calispera Absolutely. It's not easy, or simple, or fast, but it can be done. The attention piece is a good place to start.

@UnCoveredMyths Yes! Absolutely. All of that.

@dave Woohoo!

A benefit of hardship #posttraumaticgrowth #posttraumaticthriving #burnoutrecovery #autisticburnout

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=biZkYRKw9d4

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Where I would suggest starting with unmasking, is simply notice when you’re doing it.

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It is possible to develop a sense of how much energy you have. And to know that in the moment, and to grow more choices in how you use your energy. And when you use your energy so that you don’t overdo it.

#ActuallyAutistic #EnergyManagement #AuDHD #BurnoutRecovery #AutisticBurnout

If you can work to unlearn those ableist expectations of what you should and shouldn’t feel, that can help you to be okay with your own self and that helps you feel better in general.

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Some of us developed this masked self and that masked self actively hurts us for other people’s comfort.

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Can This Friendship Be Repaired?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzOh1eZ9b6I&t=4s

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After you start making more and more choices of things that are just a little bit less bad, you’re gradually, just one tiny bit at a time, making your life better.

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