Notices by Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach (hmm_cook@universeodon.com), page 6

Is it rude for Autistics to spend holidays in their room?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6NxYEI-M3A

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You get to choose how much you want to unmask, and with whom, and to what extent.

#AutisticMasking #unmasking #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity

This isn't CBT. It's not all in your head.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N1ojCvs8lfM

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Some social conventions like “thou shalt not murder” are useful. Some social conventions like “thou shalt use a fork to eat”, well, so what?

There’s a difference between those but some people treat them with this all or nothing thinking.

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If you want to be supportive when someone tells you they’re autistic, and don’t know how to do that:

You could say something like, “Wow, thank you so much for trusting me enough to share more about yourself with me. I would like to learn more, would you tell me a little bit more about your experiences or about what that means for you?”

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #unmasking #healthycommunication #healthyrelationships

Aiming for A "Good Day" Is Too Much Pressure

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXFpRswS0wY

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #PersonalGrowth

Burnout recovery is nonlinear.

#AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

The system doesn't like change. It will do anything it can to keep you stagnant.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p4hpZu2p4nk

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It is possible to feel safe around people, and it is possible to gain skills to handle unfamiliar or disagreeable interactions.

#healthycommunication #healthyrelationships #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

BTW, the next live workshop in my autistic burnout recovery course is tomorrow. If you want to sign up for the course, and join us tomorrow (or just watch the recordings/transcripts), that's still possible. Here's more info:

http://www.autismchrysalis.com/burnout

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout

A practical tip for gaining energy is to find the things that you don’t actually have to do and let them go.

Even if you can only let go of a few of the little ones, that can still free up a little bit of energy.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery

Small choices made over and over and over in different areas of your life can gradually move you towards making your life better.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #PersonalGrowth #BurnoutRecovery

What is Internalized Ableism?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y1vN9_hRjZE

#Autism #autistic #ActuallyAutistic #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance

In the furtherance of the goal of eventual acceptance, any attempt at support, even when it’s poorly worded or unintentionally insulting, counts as success (because that is something that can be built upon).

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #unmasking #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance #Understanding

I’m not trying to recover from autism #autism #audhd #actuallyautistic #autistic #advocate

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VpX99it8WjU

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You get to choose how much you’re willing to invest in each relationship.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #healthyrelationships

Different senses have different needs, sometimes at the same time, and you can address the needs of different senses to make them both more happy.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Sensory

Instead of "I can't," say this...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4QjckjEuUc

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

As your brain, your nervous system, your body adjust and adapt to small things at a time, it will allow your system to take those on board and really, really accept it as a non-threatening change.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #PersonalGrowth #BurnoutRecovery

My thoughts on Accountability Partners

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q3CU3HWbFJc

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