Notices by Sasha Göbbels 🐿️ (sashag@chaosfem.tw), page 2

I'm so fed up with all the bullshit around Harry Potter and JK Rowling.

"Separate the art from the artist. She's a terrible person but her books are enjoyable"

Nope. No, the HP novels drip of racism, antisemitism, ableism and other junk.

Thinking about it … I'm the least competitive person possible.

Whatever I do, I do it for fun. I seriously enjoy what I do. Also professionally.

And Mark Twain said: "Comparison is the death of joy."

Or more specific: You can't compete with me. I want us all to win.

Oh, right, it's #Caturday

"I demand the appreciation I deserve!"

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@roadriverrail Yes, I chose the therapist because she's one of the very few with a special education in trans voice training. We set goals and worked mostly on weight. Intonation and cadence are not bad. I use my pitch range in everyday conversations. I'm a Rhinelander, we are said to sing when talking 😅

I wonder if my reluctance to do voice training is connected to an unconscious fear to sound 'girly' or too high.

Without any training my pitch goes up and down between 160 and well over 250 Hz. This would be a great starting point to just work on the weight without raising the pitch.

@geekylou Yes! It's ok to be available to listen. To provide resources or opinions when asked for them, but "showing the way" is bad.

Wouldn't have worked for me at least. One of my ADHD traits is a mild ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), which means I'm allergic to people telling me what to do. 🤭

Me: "I'm not exclusively lesbian! I'm pan, because I find some men attractive!"

The men:

@roadriverrail Yes, absolutely. It all felt wrong, like being between two worlds that become less understandable with each day.

Guess your manager telling you in a 1:1: "You excuse too often. Don't! Stop excusing at all. When you excuse for something you did wrong you bring yourself in the inferior position in the conversation."

THAT'S what it means to be "socialized male" as someone who never ever wanted to be a man but thought he had no choice but also knew he couldn't perform this role because he/she had absolutely no fucking idea how to do so. And also didn't want to. That's not me.

This by the way continued as a "man with a career".

Do you know what it's like to sit as a head of department in a meeting with the other department leaders and the executive team (guess what, all alpha males) and when you join in a discussion everyone looks at you as if you had pulled a toad from your pocket and put it on your head?

And why? Because how and what you communicate is completely opposite to their bragging about achievements and priorities.

They communicate to make out hierarchies and a pecking order.

Having someone join in to excuse for a mistake, make a joke, roll up the blind spots still unknown without fingerpointing and closing with asking the others for their opinion is WILD for these people.

Don't get me wrong. They all were very nice. Just so … alpha male with a deep faith in hierarchies.

Don't you ever come to me and point out that I was "socialized male" and therefore could not know about the obstacles of being raised as a girl/woman.

I wasn't socialized as a man. Genderwise and with regard to the group I belonged to I was raised in no-man's land.

I wasn't accepted as a boy and I wasn't as a girl.

This is a totally different and painful shit you have absolutely no idea about.

@stavvers @doot This joke never gets old 🙃