Shitposter.world purely a hate instance, (at)BadFediPosts tagged in all comments. N-word, threats of r@pe, the usual troll trash from losers in ragged computer chairs that smell of unwashed butthole and unwanted loads of cum.
@siege I forget to take mine a lot because I'm supposed to take them before bed, so because I usually have a surplus, I double dose before tattoo appointments. It's not just anxiety. Estrogen increases blood pressure and lowers your pain threshold. Progesterone helps with both of those issues, so when there's a sadist stabbing ink into me for 4+ hours straight, I bleed less and I'm calm as a cucumber.
So my tattoo artist changed shops. The shop he moved to is owned by someone who, a few years ago, was accused of a LOT of heinous shit. I had a moment of "oh fuck, I can't go there", then I did some digging.
Turns out, his ex was making a bunch of fake profiles, claiming he sexually harassed clients, using the metoo movement to manipulate public opinion... all to get custody of their kid. Every profile was traced back to her, and he now has full custody.
So when y'all say "always believe victims"
I hope you understand, sometimes the victim is the accused.
Narrative I want to squash: "Cis people don't wonder if they're trans or question their gender"
Because yes, they do. It is normal to experiment, to test the waters, to question your very existence, and still decide you're cis. To say otherwise is invalidating the experiences of a lot of people, and it's entirely self-serving to do so.
Is the detransition community heavily populated with total fuckface assholes who should not speak on this matter? Absolutely. But the experience of questioning gender is not exclusive to us. I know you think you're giving someone the push they need to fully actualize themselves. I know you think you're saving someone from going through the trouble that you went through. But it's their trouble, their unique experience. It's not up to you to "save" them from that. All we can do is show them the door.
I think for a while, I ran head first into drama because conflict was familiar. Abuse can be addictive, in the sense that "normal" feels boring. Stagnant. If there wasn't a looming threat or some dark secret to keep, I lost interest. I still struggle to find a healthy middle ground between apathy and intentionally seeking conflict. Lately, I just avoid conflict by blocking anyone clearly seeking it.
Then there's the ones who held relationships hostage for personal gains. This happened to me so often that now, any time someone threatens to dump me or block me online, I tell them: fine, get the fuck out.
The threat of their absence just fuels my desire to be rid of them. It's not that I don't care or I don't see their side of the argument. I just promised myself I would never beg someone to stay again.
Propagandist for Big Cm IndustriesProbably doing something #lewd (18+ MDNI)#Queer af#NonbinaryOriginal content only (but known to boost something if it is relatable)Enjoying a quiet life after decades of being an unmedicated threat to myself and othersStill kind of a btchBoosts always OK