Conversation

Narrative I want to squash: "Cis people don't wonder if they're trans or question their gender"

Because yes, they do. It is normal to experiment, to test the waters, to question your very existence, and still decide you're cis. To say otherwise is invalidating the experiences of a lot of people, and it's entirely self-serving to do so.

Is the detransition community heavily populated with total fuckface assholes who should not speak on this matter? Absolutely. But the experience of questioning gender is not exclusive to us. I know you think you're giving someone the push they need to fully actualize themselves. I know you think you're saving someone from going through the trouble that you went through. But it's their trouble, their unique experience. It's not up to you to "save" them from that. All we can do is show them the door.