Notices by timberwraith (timberwraith@mastodon.social)

And I found myself wondering, was this *me* in my previous life? Did I trundle along a similar thought process?

And then...

UNIVERSE: OK, girly, you got your wish. You get to be a boy in your next life.

[death... rebirth...]

me (17 years later): FUCK THIS IS TERRIBLE PUT IT BACK PUT IT BACK THIS FUCKING SUCKS

I was lying in bed early this morning, IEMs in my ears, listening to The Last Dinner Party's album "Prelude to Ecstasy." There are several songs where the singer muses upon how nice and interesting it might be if she were a boy.

I thought, "You know, I can offer some perspective on this. It wasn't very nice?"

@dalias Oh, I think you're right. I think they see their own femaleness through a lens of deeply internalized misogyny, for those TERFs who are female, that is.

"Oh but I like that he interviews so many different people. He's a great inter..."

You're still a fucking dumbass for patronizing such a dumbass.

RE: https://mastodon.social/@timberwraith/116190268204323494

And yes, I AM talking about Joe Rogan, who apparently is one stupid motherfucker.

He has one of the most popular podcasts out there, proving that there are a lot of really stupid people in the world who like having their stupidity affirmed by a stupid man behind a microphone.

Cis men like Joe Rogan and Ray Blanchard only know how to relate to women with their cocks or with their selfish, lazy need for someone to wipe their noses and pick up after them because they were coddled by a society that never taught them how to be fully functioning adults.

They relate to women as horny man-children who want to be fucked and coddled by a living sex doll.

I think cis men like Joe Rogan and Ray Blanchard do what so many cis people do: trans people are mirrors they see their own fears, insecurities, and flaws in.

A LOT of cis men don't know how to relate to women as full human beings. They relate to women as something they have sex with or as personal domestic servants who take care of them.

They can't imagine wanting to be a woman because they don't even know how to relate to women outside of being serviced in some way.

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/03/joe-rogan-calls-trans-people-fking-perverts-blames-them-for-school-shootings/

Basically, men like this have no idea how to relate to a female human being as an adult male with adult boundaries and an adult sense of self-respect and responsibility.

Women are those who take care of them. Women are living objects who *serve* them. That's it. Full stop.

And if THAT is how you, as a cis male, relate to female people, you aren't going to have an understanding how a transfem person, someone else who society assigned as male, would ever actually want to BE a woman.

Humans are actually petty *terrible* at extending kindness to others who are different from their own group of shared qualities.

Difference creates distance, on an emotional scale, and it is surprisingly easy for humans to not care about people who are different.

It is surprisingly easy for humans to be *cruel* to people who are different from them.

The more difference, the greater the emotional distance, and the easier it is to hurt the other person--easier to exploit and destroy the other.

"I believe that most people have goodness in their hearts."

Goodness toward WHOM?

If you limit your awareness to just those people in your own particular corner of the world, your own particular demographic, class, race, sex/gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc., then yes, I imagine that people look like they have kindness in their hearts.

Humans are more likely to be kind toward other humans who are like them.

But NOT if they are outside those similarities.

"I believe that most people have goodness in their hearts."

I believed this at one time. Or, I really tried to believe this. Probably from my teens to my 30th birthday or so. It lasted for a little while in my adult years.

It just didn't stand the test of time and experience.

I do not believe this anymore. I've seen too many humans behaving in too many cruel ways and espousing too many cruel things.

We're disturbingly cruel for a social species. We aren't good at being a social species.

Well, until too many of one's own group of similar people are hurt. Too many conscripted soldiers coming home in bags and caskets. Or too many relatives and neighbors and friends who were professional soldiers in a standing military come home as corpses.

That's painful.

A whole country reconsiders after the cruelty comes home to THEM.

Then they remember that cruelty comes with a price.

For about a generation.

And then they go back to being fuckers.

Emotional distance and physical distance are the lubrication for evil in the hearts of humans. It is so much easier to feel justified in murdering other humans if those things are present.

Especially if you can outsource your evil to a standing military. Someone else can do the evil for you.

That's comforting.

Thank you for your service.

I have seen this demonstrated again and again in my life.

Oh, how easy it is to lead humans into thinking that it's good to murder and destroy whole countries full of people if they're different enough from them. Bombing, burning, raping, torturing, and so on... All popular and easy things to convince one country full of people to do to another country full of people if you can convince them of how DIFFERENT the other is, of how DANGEROUS that makes the other.

Oh fuck, this has gone on for over over a decade. We actually know some of those people from our own group who were maimed or killed. That's painful.

Maybe murdering people different from us in other countries, far far away, is a bad thing.

OK.

We'll reconsider for the next round.

2026, more murdering of people different from us in places far, far away...

This is bad we can't do this.

I give it ten years or less before we forget what we learned.

And then torture, slaughter, and wholesale burning entire countries down were acceptable things.

Because a small group of people from a group of people different from us had the temerity to punch us in the face for being assholes to them across the decades.

How dare they. OK, let's just murder everyone else from that part of the world.

Easy and good!

Especially when you can have a group of *other* people do your cruelty for you.

Thank you for your service.

I have seen this happen twice. I was just a child at the end of the Vietnam War. People had cruelty brought home to them and they reconsidered being fuckers to other countries of people who are different from them.

But that didn't last too long. Cruelty became a viable measure by the time I was an adult. Murdering people in the Middle East for oil was a good thing in the 90s. We continued in the next decade after people from the same part of the world punched us back hard.

Because years and generations establish distance too.

Distance resets the cruelty counter.

Murder becomes viable again.

Always.

We don't have goodness in our hearts.

We only have goodness in our hearts for people in close proximity who are like us or a false goodness when the consequences of cruelty are too high.

Until time has passed and we feel safe enough to be fuckers again.

And then we do what we have always done.

To those who we see as alien.

@LJ "There is no them. Not on a rock with a thin shell of air hurtling through space."

THIS

I am positively face-palming myself across the decades because the nearness of the consequences of our collective cruelty grow thinner with each passing year.

A clock is ticking down...

If it didn't cost so much, I'd consider buying a few rolls.

Maybe for the 4th of July? I might feel in a celebratory mood with these available.

https://www.ebay.com/itm/366098393121