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RE: https://mastodon.social/@timberwraith/116116285109615014

He's transmasc and I've known him for around 35 years or so.

We met each other while doing feminist activism back in the 90s. We're also classmates from the Women's Studies program at our university.

I've been thinking about my friend a lot of late as I ponder the frustrating blind spots of transfeminism.

I mean really, the bear's more reasonable and isn't trying to burn the planet down and the bear doesn't care if I'm transgender.

I'm going to bring the bear a pot of honey and some berries. Some chips and pop for myself.

We'll hang out and be friends.

Choosing the bear is a non-gender dependent thing for me.

I choose the bear over being around most humans.

Seen in response to a discussion of several Illinois congressional candidates. 🔥😏

There is no human space where I feel a true sense of belonging. It is only in nature where I feel that sense of connection.

I generally feel exhausted after spending too much time in human spaces. I long for being alone.

I keep on finding new broken stuff at Bluesky.

I'm actually surprised at how fucked up their platform is.

And for the record, I don't post anything on main over there. I just have an account to read posts that aren't necessarily viewable unless you're logged on and to communicate with a few friends.

The fediverse is where I write and spend most of my time.

I know Mastodon has many quirks but I feel relatively "spoiled" after using Mastodon for so long and then experiencing the broken shit at Bluesky.

I follow 11 people over there and have 13 followers. Whoo! I'm kind of a big deal over there, you know? 🤪

And Bluesky has A WHOLE FUCKTON of assholes, let me tell you.

The "If Newsom runs, I'll stand by my man!" discourse has made it abundantly clear that "asshole" and "liberal" are pretty much synonyms.

I can't help but think of the u.s. boy scouts who eventually got the reputation of being a bunch of haters and bigots for excluding gay/bi boys from their organization and went into a steep decline while the more accepting Girl Scouts kept on going.

I guess if you want to turn into a graying, declining organization, this is the way to go.

But that's the way bigotry of so many forms tends to function: people will shit in their own backyards daily if it means they can abuse the fuck out of a marginalized group.

I do wonder how women's organizations (feminist organizations and less political women's organizations) are going to alienate younger women as potential new members for a generation or so because of anti-trans crackdowns.

A good portion of younger cis women will likely shrug, but the most progressive of younger women--people you'd want to reach out to for these organizations--will likely see you as a bunch of assholes.

The Women's Institute is hemorrhaging members and chapters, and alienating young women after a ban on trans women members.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2026/feb/14/womens-institute-groups-close-after-transgender-ban

"How my egg cracked in one sentence."

I looked around at the global scale of violence promoted by patriarchy and decided that being a boy was overrated.

I like to watch the "bad bunny halftime show" that happens between my apartment building and the next.

Bunnies hopping around and munching on the lawn during the warmer months. BIG bunnies. Well fed bunnies, LOL.

It's snowy and cold right now. I miss my bad bunnies and their grass munching.

This is all written in past tense because she died a few years ago. I found out though an internet search.

I know this will sound cold, but it's a relief that she's no longer around.

It feels like a kind of closure.

The last time I talked to her was December of 2011. After years of her low-key misgendering abuse, and confronting her on the most rotten of racist attitudes, I was done.

But I figure, that if a person is so stupid and mean spirited that they think skin pigmentation makes one group of humans better and more deserving than another group, they're going to be complete fuckers about other differences too.

And she was.

Fuck her.

I was closest to my sister growing up. She was the youngest of my siblings but still a decade and half older than me.

She doted on me constantly. It was sweet. I was very close to her as a kid.

Then I came out and transitioned.

She couldn't bother to gender me consistently. I know, from the regular "he/him" slip ups, that she didn't actually think of me as her sister.

Our relationship died by degrees over the years. Her being an inveterate right wing racist asshole accelerated the process...