"The grief is worse than the knee pain. How do we manage without turning away, closing eyes?"

I guess like in love. We learn to care without looking, otherwise we'd care because of some specific qualities or oddities. We learnt (I guess) that that's something one shouldn't do in love either: to "love" somebody for their qualities. You just do, because it's that person. Same with care: You do, simply because it's that world. We cannot but... The main thing is to dismantle in us what hinders us to let care do its own thing... Or so I think.