I did ask you what your position was, but if I'm asked what my position is on some issue, and I just add without any justification: “and by the way, your position on this issue reminds me of nazism, I don't know, just a thought” — then that wouldn't be explaining my position on the issue, it would obviously just be smearing my opponents moral character. I wouldn't do it.
I'm fine with continuing the conversation, and I'm absolutely fine with a slower pace, and I'll happily answer your specific question, but I do need to have something cleared up first.
In this thread, you agreed with @eric that “what I'm doing is not civil”, and you contrasted it with “staying civil yourselves”. I take issue with that. Specifically, you pointed to ”discussing the living breathing person affected by this” as an example when discussing me allegedly being uncivil. But now you're also specifically asking me to go back to discussing the living breathing players. And you are specifically asking about the facts about these people which do, as we discussed, relate to their identities.
So, can we set this record straight?
Can we actually have a civil discussion — on both sides — about this issue? And can we, after all, have a civil discussion involving facts relating to identities of real people?