Relationships are different when you've built life together. I have a lot of older clients to are on their second or third marriages or have a girlfriend or domestic partner. It's all so very economic. "This is mine, that's yours." It's so cold in a way.

I've also spent almost every minute of my of my life with my wife since we got together. We're not codependent. We do our own things. She paints, sews, and plays piano. I work, play with my computers, and drum.

Nonetheless, we're rarely more than a ten feet apart. I've had many people describe us as being like a finely tuned clock. There's a groove we each fill. She washes the dishes, I put them in the washer. I vacuum while she sweeps. Etc.