you have to be a MASSIVE douchebag to get defederated or banned on here, and those instances are well on the fringes.
Not true. Fosstodon sorted their shit, and after people knew it was sorted, other instance admins STILL blocked them. That all seems quite childish to me (the Moderator in question left of their own accord, which tells me they are far more adult about the incident than anyone else).

So no, you don't have to be a massive douche, you just need to not go along with the narrative the other large instance admins push. It's been like this for half a decade; it's extremely immature and I'm sick of feeling like one of the only adults in a room overrun by screaming toddlers.

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