@lykanthrocide @BowsacNoodle @RedpillBot @SuperLutheran
The mistake those pastors usually make is take verse 5:21 as a single moral command for each and every believer, instead of treating as part of the pericope, marking the transition from discussing how believers relate to the world darkness and how to generall treat each other to discussing how certain groups should submit to others, wives to husbands (5:22-33), children to parents (6:1-4), and slaves (or workers in a modern sense) to masters (6:5-9).

Notice that these pastors would never tell parents to submit to their children nor would they dare upset hierarchy within businesses, state, and military, but that is the absurd logical conclusion for treating 5:21 as a universal command for each and every believer without any context.