@david

>It doesnt matter if I try and changing my online alias. nothing else feels right to me.
That's literally what they want. Stop reading the hashtag, stop talking to people that post there and disassociate from communities they talk to (if you can). Then your are 90% of the way there. Your other option is quitting fedi completely like the libertarian galaxy cat did months ago.

You either become their villain and join others on the dark and fun side. Or carefully walk on a thin rope in the grey zone like I do for almost 2 years and still get blocked my most of them anyway. Or you join their community fully. There are no other options.