I don't mean to invalidate your experience, but communication media are very much what we (and our communication parties) make of them. I find the asynchronicity of email generally welcome, but I've also been in very high-bandwidth email communications, and some people expect immediate responses; I've also been in very low-bandwidth chat groups, but the interactivity can be useful at times. the very same social media networks can be overwhelming or desertic, depending on your contacts, and on what you use it for. in my case, missing an email can be a problem, but missing a chat message is no biggie, so "catching up" can be as easy as "mark it all read" (if there are even such markers in the chat client). but while some people use chat for throw-away conversations, some run businesses out of it, and for them discarding chat messages could be as bad as missing an email or a critical notification. my observation is that the properties we tend to assign to these media are not inherent to the media, but to the customs of the groups we interact with through them.

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