I really do strive towards resolution and harmony. It's my nature. But I also know that the tools to be employed towards that end be temporarily painful. It's like having to go through chemotherapy to kill the cancer.

I really believe in boundaries and expectations, and that setting them are necessary to healthy relationships. Talking doesn't set boundaries. That's some jewish-freudian shit. Talk rarely solidifies. Action does. It's partially why our entire society is fucked up. We were told that we need to talk about everything. Yes, discussion is important towards assessment, but only action causes real change.