@jwcph To take this further, I wonder how much of the acceptance of the “racist family member” is the fear that were they to confront the worst embodiments of an unfair and unjust system they benefit from themselves, the whole thread might unravel, threatening their own place of privilege within such a society.
In other words, how much of it is the implicit, guilty understanding that they are, themselves, fainter echos of said family member; at once disgusted by what they see in the mirror and yet terrified of the consequences of shattering it?