@alice There might also be some of the whole thing where guys are nervous to come across as flirting. Which I guess I sorta understand. I was nervous complementing a woman's appearance for a long time too. But also, my rule of thumb has always been that it's okay to give a complement to something someone has done with their appearance - hair or clothes or makeup or shoes etc. Unless it's someone you're intimate with or otherwise very close, don't talk about parts of their body.