@realcaseyrollins well the broken stair here is i'm the one who was constantly advocating for eating at home, not getting takeout every day, cutting a small amount for savings, coming up with incentive plans so if somebody helps with the cooking they get a cut of the difference

like it was averaging 30-40$ a person per day in takeout and i'm like you could just pay them 15$ to cook it and actually use the groceries we buy anyway, and both of you come out ahead

no, none of that apparently.