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   iced depresso (icedquinn@blob.cat)'s status on Thursday, 02-Jan-2025 22:54:09 JST iced depresso
   some of us do that but then get bitched at that its not good enough to have helped with the dishes and the floors, we should have done everything blah blah.
   
   i wonder how many mothers nit themselves out of help in this way
   
   RE: https://mastodon.online/@davidaugust/113758072833245596
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     iced depresso (icedquinn@blob.cat)'s status on Thursday, 02-Jan-2025 22:55:08 JST iced depresso

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     personal story is i ran out of spoons to cook (esp. with the lack of appreciation and constant nitting) so the last thing i did was still showed up to prep the carrots and such.
     
     no thankfulness, just "it doesn't count unless you do ALL the cooking"
     
     :cirno_doubt: something to think about
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     iced depresso (icedquinn@blob.cat)'s status on Thursday, 02-Jan-2025 23:02:09 JST iced depresso

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     @realcaseyrollins well the broken stair here is i'm the one who was constantly advocating for eating at home, not getting takeout every day, cutting a small amount for savings, coming up with incentive plans so if somebody helps with the cooking they get a cut of the difference
     
     like it was averaging 30-40$ a person per day in takeout and i'm like you could just pay them 15$ to cook it and actually use the groceries we buy anyway, and both of you come out ahead
     
     no, none of that apparently.
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     casey is remote (realcaseyrollins@noauthority.social)'s status on Thursday, 02-Jan-2025 23:02:10 JST casey is remote

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     @icedquinn I do think there is a difference between "do nice things for people" and "do whatever people tell you to do". Although I know from experience that if you're raised a certain way it can be VERY hard to tell the difference!

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     iced depresso (icedquinn@blob.cat)'s status on Thursday, 02-Jan-2025 23:04:34 JST iced depresso

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     @realcaseyrollins mostly sour in that i have been in the place to do as the monk says, and it doesn't do jack. :cirno_doubt: you cannot save them. you can only be safe from them.