@r_alb Is perfectly on point .. if you need to monitor you children, you've essentially failed in their upbringing.
Being a parent is about teaching how to build shields, not being the shield. If you constantly need to protect your loved ones .. it is a time to take a big step back.
A parents sole mission is to see that they can thrive when you're no longer there to protect them, which might come sooner .. or hopefully much later.