"You push yourself too hard when it comes to trying to understand what is happening to others in your marginalized group" is, again, not the take I think you are intending here.
I know you don't mean it that way, I get it, but I would like you to think about that framing
Also at a guess I have been moderating longer than some of the people involved in these conversations have been alive, and whataboutism with others (BlueSky) not under discussion is rarely useful