@unspeaker My point is that you can't bring anecdotal evidence to prove a point. My own anecdotal evidence is there to show how stupid it is to prove a point by bringing just anecdotal evidence.
I used "toxic" as I thought it would be a good word to sum up what is a multiple-post-long piece, sorry if it came through as minimizing.
As I said before - I'm not arguing that what OP said is wrong, just that the evidence she is bringing to the table is weak.