why not just say aro: a lot of people don't have the vocab for it or feel like that word doesn't accurately describe their situation or feel like it's too politically charged
why still look if it makes you anxious: it could be that what makes them anxious is when it drags on for too long! that's usually the case with the men who break my heart 😎
people who want nsa sex: usually just say nsa sex, or "fun" in grindr code