@vriska@lizards.live @thegreatape@hollow.raccoon.quest i figure sex is an expected part of a relationship, and sex can make the person you care about feel better, so deal with sex is sorta my mind set, and sometimes the experience can be unexpectedly enjoyable - but there is a pervasive cultural thing with sex that affects me - even if i rather just be held or hold someone else - I would not feel i was truly in a relationship with them until we had sex.