I have a solution for you, though. Since you seem to place so much importance on the "incompatible people" part of your argument: Neither party is allowed to choose whom to marry, the whole thing will be arranged ahead of time, the families themselves will take the necessary measures to insure "compatibility" up-to and including necessary corporal adjustments, and anyone (like you) attempting to weaken the structure of marriage and family will be immediately hanged.
Arranged marriage is the traditional marriage. And only the men of the two families involved got to choose.